What Marriage Means To Me

I’m excited because in a few week Jayson and I will be celebrating three years of marriage. A few weeks ago I shared on my personal Facebook page what marriage meant to me. I thought a few weeks later it would make an awesome blog post!

People usually fall in love with the idea of a wedding, not marriage. Marriage is more than a white dress, wedding photos and memorable reception dances that may go viral. Marriage is not your engagement ring setting from Jared or how much money your spouse spent on your engagement ring or wedding band.

Marriage is loving on your spouse harder through depressions and the storm seasons that life will bring. Marriage is encouraging your spouse to finish their education and pushing them towards graduation. Marriage is loving your spouse enough to tell them when they aren’t sleeping or eating enough and making them take a nap! Marriage is budgeting at the kitchen table and tithing despite your money being funny. Marriage is laying hands on your spouse and praying the walls of hell down for them when they’re sleeping. Yes, take advantage of those opportunities when they’re snoring. Ask God to pour favor, grace, forgiveness, understanding, mercy and anointing into your marriage.

Marriage is hard work, and it requires you to become unselfish! My husband’s needs are mine, and my needs are his. Jayson and I are constantly helping each other change for the better in our marriage!

Blessings,

Aisha

Perfectionism Was Destroying My Spirit

A few months ago my husband and I attended a donor appreciation dinner at our local foodbank that we support. Jayson was looking at our pictures we took for the donor dinner. Jayson said, “I haven’t seen you this happy in years. You were absolutely beautiful.” Jayson wasn’t the only that has noticed the change in my spirit.

I’m excited about what God is doing in my life. I am thankful for my marriage, family, and friends. I’m happier because I am no longer a control freak and I got rid of the “perfectionist spirit” I had. I’ve also learned to choose my battles with God’s help. I surround myself with good people, who aren’t afraid to call me out when I am wrong. My husband is excited about my new joyous spirit, and it has made me a better wife.

I haven’t been this happy in years. I’m still growing in Christ every day. Volunteering time and financial support to a great cause have totally changed my perspective on a lot of things. I’m more grateful and giving will do that to you. The thing is, God wants us to enjoy our lives, and I love mine!

Enjoying Life In Virginia,

Aisha

A King Is Worth Waiting On

I’m blessed to have a husband that loves me despite all of my imperfections. I love the little things that my husband does. I don’t have to pump my gas. Jayson helps me when I wash and blow dry my hair. Jay is an excellent provider, protector, nurturer, and leader. God’s anointing and favor is a powerful thing in marriage. I’m thankful I didn’t settle for less. I waited for the one God created for me. No, the waiting season is never easy, but it’s worth it. Ladies, don’t settle for a court jester when you could have a king. A man should be courting you correctly anything less is beneath you.
#CourtshipWorks #Proverbs31

Blessings,
Aisha

Unbalanced Roles In Relationships

Women are finding themselves single, and they can’t figure out why. From an early age, women are taught that we don’t need a man for anything. We can do it all by our self; this is a lie from the pit of hell and if you disagree with me consult your bible.

I’ve never met a man who loved coming home and competing with his wife. God has called men to be providers and protectors for their wife and children. I think this is a lot of pressure men already have on their shoulders. A man needs to feel needed and wanted. Women allow your man to be a man. He is not your girlfriend.

God knew what he was doing when he made Adam and Eve. He created Adam first then created Eve from part of Adam’s rib. See, there was a natural order from the beginning. Husbands are supposed to lead their wives and children. A husband is a spiritual leader, protector, and provider. Ladies if you can’t grasp this concept than more than likely you will stay single. A man who is sold out for Christ will honor you and make you his bride. He won’t make you wonder about his intentions either.

Please stop getting your relationship advice from social media figures and celebrities. The word of God has all the answers you need!

Blessings,

Aisha

 

Just Apologize Already

Have you ever noticed how some Christians would rather gratify their flesh instead of apologizing when they are wrong? Once God convicts your heart of wrongdoing just apologize. Trust me it’s never too late to apologize. Just make sure your apology is sincere. Please don’t apologize by saying, “I’m sorry you felt that way.” Newsflash that’s not an apology and don’t keep repeating the same offense. Relationships can be saved if people would get over themselves and apologize. I know years ago I could care less about what I said to others. I am glad to say I am finally at a place where apologizing is easy. I pick and choose my battles with the Lord’s help. Praise God for spiritual maturity! Let’s all make a conscience effort to be kinder to one another. Praise God for second chances. Remember no one has ever died from giving an apology!

Blessings,

Aisha

Homemaker and College Woman

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Hey Everyone,

I have totally been neglecting my blog. I truly miss connecting with my fellow blog followers. I do have some exciting new to share with you all! After a lot of prayers and getting the green light from God this woman is back in school. I am enrolled in a reputable, accredited online program at a well know Christian University in my state of Virginia. I am in my third semester as a full-time online student. I am thankful that my grade point average is a solid 4.0, the work can be tedious, and it seems like I am never going to finish. I always get it done, though. I remind myself that I am blessed to be a homemaker while pursuing my education.

I do plan to go back to work someday in my degree field. Jayson and I agree that if we decide to start a family, I will stay at home and raise my child. However, when our child reaches school age, I will probably work part-time. My top priority will always be my family. Education is something that can never be taking away from you. I think being a homemaker is a fantastic job. However, I have to be prepared for whatever life may throw my way. I grew up hearing my grandma say: “You have to be also ready!” I am on track to complete my degree in about a year and a half. I have my associate’s degree thankfully the majority of my credits transferred.

My classes are broken up over eight weeks each week contains a folder that contains all of my assignments, discussion boards, and exams. I’ve been asked how I complete my assignments ahead of time. I keep a checklist of all of my assignments, and my planner is my sidekick. I learned the importance of not waiting around to the last minute to complete assignments. A few months ago I finished all of my coursework a week before the class was ready to end. I had a week of relaxing and Hallmark movies planned out. Unfortunately, I came down on with the flu. I was able to rest and not worry about rushing to complete coursework. I would appreciate if you all would keep me in prayer as I pursue my degree.

Blessings,
Aisha

Faithful Friends

Wow, I want to have friends like the four men mentioned in Mark 2:1-12!

Jesus was teaching at a home in Capernaum. The news traveled so fast, and the house was packed. You couldn’t get inside of the house or outside of the house. The four faithful friends didn’t let that discourage them. According, to my bible study the guys probably used the outside stairs. That’s how they got their paralyzed friend to the roof!

Good friends will dig a hole in the roof just for you to get near Jesus. The four men knew that their paralyzed friend needed a healing touch from Jesus. So, if your friends aren’t trying to get you in front of Jesus, drop them immediately. Please pray for anointed friendships!

I am currently studying the Stronger 7 Session Bible Study written by Angela Thomas. God put it on my heart to find an excellent Bible study that I could do at home. I must say the Stronger Bible Study has served as a complete blessing in this season of my life. Please consider this Bible study for yourself.

Blessings,
Aisha

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Rejection

Rejection is a part of life at some point we all face it. I heard a pastor say  “rejection is God’s protection.” I think that’s definitely a true statement. We all want to be accepted, especially by family members. When you have done all you can and someone doesn’t want to have anything to do with you. The best thing to do is go into a healthy grieving process and bury the relationship.

You can try to pull on the other person’s heart strings and pray they let you in. The majority of the time they still won’t accept you. I feel so bad when I see people almost begging for acceptance. The reality is you can’t make someone have a relationship with you. We become frustrated trying to make situations work that only God can. So, it doesn’t matter if it’s your in-laws, biological parents or birth parents. Invest your time and energy into those people who are in your life now. We often get ourselves into an emotional mess stressing over people who don’t care about us.

Also, stop looking them up on social media. I think this is absolutely insane. You want to make your heart ache more keep tracking them through the internet. Grieving a relationship loss is a process and it doesn’t happen overnight either. I recommend getting professional help if the pain is taking you into a depressive state. God wants us to enjoy our everyday lives.

So, let’s focus on the good people we have in our lives. If you have one person in your life that genuinely loves you. You should consider yourself blessed. Always remember friends can become family. Every mentally capable grown adult is responsible for making their own decisions . If someone doesn’t want a relationship with you. You have to respect their wishes and leave them alone.

Psalm 27:10 (AMP)
10 Although my father and my mother have forsaken me, yet the Lord will take me up [adopt me as His child].

Joyce Meyer has an awesome book Beauty For Ashes. I highly recommend reading this book.

Blessings,
Aisha

I’m A Proud Homemaker

I can honestly say I have no problem being a stay at home wife with no kids. I understand some people they may feel like I should be working and contributing to my household. However, I believe you do what God wants you to do and not worry about what everyone else thinks. Living on one income is not easy, and budgeting is the key. I remember when God told Jayson and I to get married.

We were both nervous because I would have to move and leave my job. I was searching and applying for jobs, but nothing worked out. We had to depend solely on God to meet our needs. I remember two weeks after we have gotten married. Jayson received a pay increase at his job. Jayson’s pay increase covered my salary that I lost. We both knew that was the Lord’s way of saying I got this.

Our first year of marriage, I was dealing with horrible migraines. Luckily, my neurologist told me about a wonderful Christian counseling center. I made my appointment right after I had my optic never block injection done. I’m so thankful to the Lord that with the help of good Bible teaching and counseling. My migraines went away, and I was off of my migraine medication. I discovered through counseling that I was in a mild depression. My problem was that I was holding onto to issues that I couldn’t control. I am glad that during this time I was a homemaker. So, once again God had me right where he wanted me at home.

Jayson and I are heading into our second year of marriage, and we couldn’t be happier. Yes, I am still a homemaker. I know some stay at home wives catch a lot of criticism because they choose to remain at home. I haven’t had to face that issue. Jayson and I live on our own, and we don’t rely on to pay our bills. So, unless someone is paying your bills, their opinion means nothing. I am thankful that I can work in my home for living. I recently was diagnosed with a genetic blood disorder. So, I don’t have a lot of energy. I know with excellent medical care, prayer, and my husband’s support. I know that I will be able to get through this. Once again, God has me where he wants to serve my home!

God is the author of our lives. Yes, we all contribute to our personal stories by choices and decisions that we make individually. I know that God doesn’t make any mistakes, and I am a biblical homemaker for a reason. One day if my husband and I ever have children. We already know what it’s like to live on one income. So, it won’t be a huge adjustment for us. Enjoy the season that God had you in despite whatever the circumstances may be.

Joyfully Serving,
Aisha

Titus 2:5 (AMP)
5 To be self-controlled, chaste, homemakers, good-natured (kindhearted), adapting and subordinating themselves to their husbands, that the word of God may not be exposed to reproach (blasphemed or discredited).

Psalm 119:105 (MSG)
105 By your words I can see where I’m going; they throw a beam of light on my dark path.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 (AMP)
1 TO EVERYTHING there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven:

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I’m A Grown Woman

I’m at the age where I say no when I have to. I don’t put myself in situations that I know aren’t good for me. I don’t spend time with people who I know don’t like me. I immediately tell people how I feel if they hurt my feelings. I don’t expect people to read my mind. So, I tell them how I feel. I believe in teaching people how to treat me. I say no when my budget tells me no. I seek God in all things. Yes, even the little things. I value my husband’s opinions. I respect him as head of our home. I enjoy my role as a homemaker. I am a grown woman who really enjoys growing in God!

Blessings,

Aisha